Our momentum stuttered yesterday when someone close to us chose to tell us that they don’t believe we can do what we’ve set out to do, they don’t think we can overcome this financial challenge. They let us know that they’re fully expecting us to fail.
Now the common knee-jerk reaction to someone sharing a sentiment like that is to feel hurt and insulted and frankly, to begin doubting yourself. To get sucked in to the belief that they have.
Fortunately, the knowledge that I’ve spent a lifetime acquiring, and in more recent years begun practicing more fully, serves me well at a time like this.
First, what I know is that when someone shares a belief, it’s just that – their belief. I can absolutely choose to adopt their belief as my own, or I can call it what it is – their belief, based on their experience, their paradigms, their fears. When someone states a belief, what they’re really expressing is what they believe about themselves, not necessarily what they believe about you.
And regardless of how close they may be to you, they can’t possibly fathom what you’re capable of. Hell, I’m intending to surprise myself with what I’m going to achieve.
There’s no judgement in that, people are where they are. It’s not for me to try to change anyone else’s belief.
Second, I learned a few years ago that I’m responsible for my own mental and emotional state, regardless of what happens in my life. This was painful at first, like “what, how can I help it if somebody insults me or says unkind things?”. But then it becomes empowering, like “yeah, it doesn’t matter what you say to me, I can choose to feel unshaken by your opinion”.
Third, when you’re doing something you’ve never done before, and you’re way outside of your comfort zone, it’s a good idea to have some company. I was listening to Bob Proctor this morning on YouTube and he shared a quote – “Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”
So I’m choosing to put myself in the company of those who dream big, those who have faith in what they can’t yet see, those who understand that things that have never happened before happen all the time with the right mindset, commitment and actions.
What’s something that you’d like to create or experience in your life that you’ve never done before? And how can you surround yourself with people who encourage and inspire you to do it?