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“I just don’t feel like I’m fun anymore.”
“I’ve lost the playful part of my personality.”
“I feel like I’m always nagging my family all the time.”
You know what I’m talking about. That sinking feeling you get…
…after a particularly petty argument with your husband,
…during a conversation with a friend who’s just returned from an amazing vacation,
…after nagging your teenager — again — to clean up after themselves,
…during a quiet moment of reflection when you realize you haven’t dressed in anything other than yoga pants or “work clothes” for three weeks.
Suddenly, you’re thinking… Huh. I’m not much fun anymore. When the hell did that happen?
Somewhere between working 40+ hours a week, chasing after the kids, and making sure everyone has clean socks and underwear, the “fun” you got misplaced. Sexy, confident You somehow morphed into a tired and frustrated dirty dish detective. Simply put, the playfulness ebbed out of your life.
Not to worry! Here are a few ways to get your Fun back:
1. Infuse a little more of your preferences back into your life. When fun seems to have fled from us, it’s often because we quit speaking up about what we want. Little things like what to have for dinner or what color to use on the wall in your workspace can compound over time to cause you to “check out” emotionally.
2. Take a little time to daydream. Spend a few quiet moments getting back in touch with what brings you joy. What do you love to do? What makes you laugh? Is there something you’ve always wanted to learn to do? Spend a few moments each day visualizing yourself doing those things.
3. Do one small thing each day, just for you. Often, when we find our life is somewhat devoid of fun, it’s because we’re too caught up in what we feel like we “have” to do. Do something each day, just because you “want” to.
4. Watch a funny show or movie. Laughter is contagious. Let some of your favorite TV or movie stars lift your spirits a little.
5. Pay attention to the people you’ve been hanging out with. If you have positive, uplifting friends, make a point to get together with them often.
6. Think “perfection means disconnection”. I heard this simple statement on a webinar by Maria Andros Buckley. Let go of the belief that everything needs to be perfect. Obsessively striving for perfection causes you to disconnect from your real priorities, like enjoying time with your family. Sure, the kids need to learn to pick up after themselves, but getting comfortable with the “lived in” look can go a long way towards helping you relax about the small stuff.